Undisciplined Hearts

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I wrote this originally for my clamorousmind website, but I think it’s relevant for this blog too.  Enjoy:-)

Dora.  She was painfully unprepared for life.  She grew up in a wealthy family.  Her mom died when she was young, and after this, her dad pampered her. She did not have any responsibility and was allowed to do whatever she wanted.

Then, this girl grows up.  She’s frivolous and lazy.  She shuns correction.

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David.  He faced rejection and loss from a very young age.   His father died before he was born, and after this, his mother remarried a charming, but evil man.  This man estranged David from his mother.  The stress of this broke David’s mother’s heart, and caused her early death.

Then, this boy grows up.  He’s broken.  He craves acceptance.  He desperately needs love.

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These two people meet.

He becomes infatuated with her.  She likes the attention.

He wants to work hard for her.  She likes to play.

He’s serious about marriage.  She thinks it’s a game.

He sees the warning signs, but ignores them.  She doesn’t think there is a problem.

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 They marry…

But, what happens after this?

 Tension.  He feels like she’s constantly letting him down.  She thinks that he doesn’t love her anymore.

 Resentment.  He is frustrated that she doesn’t listen to him.  She feels unaccepted, but doesn’t want to change her ways.

 Disorder.  He wishes for her to manage their home.  She’s not willing to do the work.

David and Dora are both characters from David Copperfield.  It’s a very long book, with some boring, hard-to-get-through parts mixed in with fascinating scenarios, like this one.


Over time, they both come to see their errors.

David says of himself:   “For I knew, now, that my own heart was undisciplined when it first loved Dora.

Dora says of herself:     “I am afraid, dear, I was too young. I don’t mean in years only, but in experience, and thoughts, and everything….. I have begun to think I was not fit to be a wife.

In your opinion, who are you more like, David or Dora?  Or are you a bit of both? 

I’m probably more like David, except, I have a good life.   It’s easy for me to get very excited about something, and ignore warning signs and then make a rash decision.


Top 6 Writing Tips

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These are the top 6 writing tips that I’ve learned:

1.  Writer’s Block doesn’t exist.  Sometimes you don’t have inspiration, but you can always force it to happen.

2.  You can find inspiration anywhere.  Learn to be observant of the inspiration around you.

3.  Spending time on your outline is worth it.  A good outline really helps give your finished writing structure.

4. First drafts are always ugly.  You can revise later.

5.  Read.  You can’t be an author/ writer unless you are also a reader.

6.  Read how-to-write books.  My favorite how- to write book for fiction is Structuring your Novel, by K.M Weiland.   My favorite book for writing paragraphs and essays is Jenson’s Format Writing, by Frode Jenson.

What are some of your best tips for writing?

Writer’s Ups and Downs

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Writing is like riding a bike in a hilly area.  Writing can make you ecstatic when the you have perfect inspiration and the words flow beautifully. This is a wonderful feeling, like going downhill on your bike.  It’s easy, the wind is in your hair, and you just feel great.  But sometimes, writers experience a time of no inspiration and the words just won’t flow no matter how hard you try.   This is difficult and discouraging, like going uphill on your bike.  It’s very hard work and the fun is gone.  However, when you push through, you may end up with a beautiful piece of writing, but even if you don’t, you usually learn something.  I’m having one of those hard writer times right now, but I’m confident that being a writer is worth it, so I’m going to persevere through the hard spots.

What do you think is the hardest part of writing?